Intimidated

I have been thinking about this for a while and I decided to actually write about it so that I could form a concrete idea about it. You see, as a guy and as a guy who lives in Provo, Utah, I am "supposed" to ask a girl out on a date (this could be another topic to discuss later). Anyways, that's not the point. What I wanted to talk about was how sometimes guys might get intimidated to ask a girl out. Maybe not every guy but I am one of those guys who looks at a girl and thinks, "She is really pretty and fun to hang out with but she's too intellectual/artsy/musical/athletic/etc so I am too intimidated/scared to ask her out."

Maybe it's just me but that is so intimidating  that I would not ask her out. It's not a bad quality that a person has but I am so worried about not being able to carry on a conversation or not having anything in common that I would not even ask her out. As I write this, I realize how stupid that sounds because people are not interested in one thing and I believe that "opposites attract;" however, I can't get the courage to ask girls out if I feel that they are, in a way, out of my league.

So how do I fix this? Simple; ask them out anyways. I don't really know them until I talk to them and spend time with them. Maybe they are interested in me (or you) but because you didn't ask them out and didn't give them a chance, you would lose a great opportunity to at least make some friends.

Being intimidated is my choice. I looked at a great quality of a person and decided that it is too much for me. However, how would I really know that is too much for me? What am I really scared of? Maybe I think that when a girl is, for example, way athletic, she probably wants to spend her time being outdoor and playing sports all the time instead of just hanging out. That sounds really dumb. I need to just ask myself why I wouldn't ask a girl out and if the answer is fear, then I need to get the courage to ask her out anyways.