Understanding Dating: Problem #1

Problem #1: Guys are dumb and girls are confusing.
-Girls think that guys are dumb because guys just don't get it! Girls are giving obvious hints to guys so that they would ask girls out but they never do. I mean it's obvious that they are interested in them.
-Guys think that girls are so confusing because at one moment, guys think that girls are showing interest in them but at another moment, they just don't even make an eye contact with them. Why can't they just come out and tell them if they are interested?

-Well ladies, here's the problem with what you think. We, guys, are not girls so we don't know if you are giving us "hints" or you have something in your eyes.
-And guys, you just need to step up and ask them out if you have a slightest idea that they might be interested in you.

Solutions to problem #1
-Ladies, I don't think there is an absolute perfect "hint" you can give to guys because no matter what you do, they still won't get it. However, there are few things you could do to "ask them out." Since we live in America, it's a "taboo" for girls to ask guys out (which I totally disagree with). Anyways, solution #1: talk to your bishop or stake president to see if your ward or stake could have like a ladies' choice night so that you can straight up ask a guy out.
Solution #2: You can "hang out" with your lady-friends and guy-friends at the same time but have the same number of each. So if you are going to invite three* of your lady-friends then invite four of your guy-friends (remember to count yourself: you + three of your lady-friends = four girls <=> four guys). Then later on, you can just hook up with a guy you are interested in. Of course, you might want to carefully select your lady-friends so that the guy you are interested in doesn't go for one of your friends. Do something that makes y'all pair up into a couple. *I just thought that having four couples would be a good number but you can have how many ever you want.
Solution #3: Ask your friends who are already friends with the guy you are interested in to hook you up with him. I have done this before (not for a guy, I promise) and it works great because they are so willing to help you and even call that person for you if you don't have his (her, for my case) number. Then you can all go on a double/group date.
Solution #4: Just kiss him.

-Guys, you don't have a good excuse. You only get one solution: ASK HER OUT!!! I know how you feel; you are afraid that she's not really interested in you, you are just afraid that it will be awkward between you two during the date, you are afraid that it might get awkward between you two after the date, you don't want the whole drama after the date, you don't have money, or you are more interested in guys than girls. It's all OK. Like Preach My Gospel says, "Fear is the opposite of faith." You just have to go for it and ask her out. It's OK if she rejects you or gets awkward between you two (I will address that issue on another post) because you win some and you lose some. I promise, it gets easier to accept rejection. Most of you are return missionaries so you can handle rejection. So what if they are not interested in you, at least your mom loves you. :) But seriously don't worry about it because there are plenty of girls out there who want to date you. So man up and ask them out.

Last thought: I am writing this from my own experience and from talking to many guys and girls. Also, I am not an expert at this and am also a guy so I am dumb. However, I am starting to understand both guys' and girls' points of view on dating and need to improve in this field also.

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