True Thoughts Pt 2

This might be awkward too personally for some of you so if you don't want to read, don't. I won't know.

Have you ever felt like you are not good enough for someone you are interested, like, or love? You might think he/she is too handsome/pretty, too smart, too righteous, too something for you. You feel like you are not good enough for that person. You got nothing to offer when you keep receiving from him/her. (This really could be way personal.) You might not be intimidated around him/her but grateful to know someone so amazing and so motivational. You want to become a better person when you are around him/her. Even if you feel like he/she is interested in you, you don't want to ask him/her out or show interested in that person because you want that person to meet someone who is better than you. You feel like he/she deserves someone better. (Oh man, you are actually reading this. OH MAN, I AM ACTUALLY WRITING THIS!)

Like I always say, "C'est la vie" or "Es la vida" or "This is life" or "이게 삶이다." Yes, I just wrote in four different languages.


Related Post
True Thoughts

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

Low Expectations

Maybe it's better not to explain the title and expound on it. It's just not going to be a very upbeat post.

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

Less Is More

Graham Hill: Less Stuff, More Happiness

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

Steve Jobs: Live Before You Die

It's a great speech by Steve Jobs. Listen, you might receive some inspiration.

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

One of The Scariest Things EVER!

It's scarier than a bogeyman.

It's scarier than a scary movie.

It's scarier than the dark.

It's scarier than Joker.

It's scarier than spiders.

It's scarier than clowns.

It's scarier than asking a girl out.

It's scarier than a gun pointing to your head.

It's scarier than a ghost.

.

.

.

.

.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.
.

.

.

.

.

.

.

It's singing solo in front of a crowd.

I wish I could rock out like that without getting nervous.

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

What Makes Me Mad Part 2

I want to be cool like Noah Wyle

1. Library patrons who tell me how to do my job.
I am pretty sure I've been trained and worked here long enough to know how to do research and find whatever you need. If I tell you that the book you are looking is not in the library, it's not in the library. If I tell you that the printers don't work, I know that they don't work and there's nothing I can do about it. If I am showing you what I am doing and explain to you why I can't get that article you want, you should be able to tell that it's impossible to get your article. I am not a magician; I can't make things appear out of thin air. Oh and don't roll your eyes at me when I tell you that the printers are not working.

What can I say? I like pictures of Asians

2. I hate the fact that we need sleep to survive.
I am not blaming God (maybe just a tiny bit) but I hate how I get super tired if I sleep less than 8 hours. Actually, I don't think I am ever NOT tired. I am always tired no matter how many hours I sleep. I don't even think I ever sleep for more than 8 hours anymore. I wish we could only need to sleep for 4 or 5 hours to function properly. We would have more time to hang out, do our homework or do things that we enjoy. I am so tired of being tired all the time. That doubles my tiredness.

3. People who put down Mormons or the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

To be honest, I wasn't mad when I was watching this but it made me laugh because it made me think of all those people who tried to put down the Church on my mission. I just don't understand people who argue with us that we are not Christian when we clearly have the name of our Savior in the name of the church. Also, they say all these requirements of being a Christian and we believe all those things to be true, but they still say we are not Christians. One last thing, what the heck is "theological cult"? What Jeffress said did not make any sense because he's just trying to put things together to make it sound like the Latter-day Saints, Mormons, are not Christians. Anderson Cooper, however, does a very good job at calling Jeffress out and focuses more on the central belief of our church which is faith in Jesus Christ.


Related Post
What Makes Me Mad

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

Understanding Dating: Assumption, Over-analysis & Expectation

I hope I am not the only one who has problems with these three things: Assumption, over-analysis, and expectations.

This post is a little bit different than other dating posts I wrote because I don't know what answers/resolutions are. There might not be.

*When I say "we," I mean "I"...most of the times.

Over-analysis
We notice things while we are hanging out with the opposite sex: little touching on the arm, smiling a lot at us, getting close to us, asking us a lot of questions about us, etc. We start to think, 'Why did she/he do that? Maybe she/he is interested in me (or maybe not).' 'She/he kept calling me a friend. Maybe she/he only thinks of me as a friend.' It kills everybody to think way too much about what that person does or says because we try so hard to figure out if that person likes us or not. Then the assumption comes in.

Assumption
We tend to assume what girls or guys do is because they are interested in us. We say, "he/she did this or that so he/she must be interested in me." We can only assume unless we don't talk to that person about it or go on a date with him/her. Even then we only assume over and over thinking that he/she is interested (or not interested) in us.

Expectation

I didn't choose this just
because he's Asian

I think I wrote about this before how in a movie 500 Days of Summer, there's a scene in which it shows the main character's expectations and the reality. It's very painful for me to watch because I had experiences like that. I don't understand why we have expectations when we know it's not going to go as we expect...ever. OK, maybe, sometimes, very rarely, seldom they do. However, we just hope for things because we want things to work out. We want to know if he/she is interested in us so we hope that things will happen so we will know for sure. When things don't work out as we hoped or expected, we lose that hope and think that he/she doesn't like us or isn't interested in us.

Final Thought
As I have stated in the beginning, I don't have answer to this problem. I don't even know myself what I should do, but I decided that I wouldn't over-analyze anything even if a girl really is giving me hints because I don't want to be stressed out about things that I can't know without asking. I don't want to go back and forth between "she likes me" and "she doesn't like me." That sounds really immature, dumb, and very frustrating. (I am sure everybody knows what I am talking about.) Perhaps, the best answer is talk to that person and see what he/she thinks.

Related Posts
Understanding Dating: The Key
Understanding Dating: Problem #2
Understanding Dating: Problem #1
Opposites Attract

Kind-of-related Posts
Past Haunts Me
Meaning Of Love

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

My Heavenly Father Loves Me Pt 2

"Consider the Lilies" by Simon Dewey

Do you have moments when you feel like God is right beside you to lift you up? Do you have moments when you strongly feel His love for you?

Recently, I had few moments like that and I would like to share them with you.

The first story was from yesterday. I was pondering on few things that are happening (or not happening) in my life and I was a little frustrated at myself. I read parts of Drawing on the Powers of Heaven and Hearing the Voice of the Lord but the only part that caught my attention was this sentence from Drawing on the Powers of Heaven: (I am paraphrasing) "Through your sufficient faith, your prayers are answered." Then while I was studying the Book of Mormon and praying in my heart for some kind of an answer, I read 1 Nephi 2:12

"And thus Laman and Lemuel, being the eldest, did murmur against their father. And they did murmur because they knew not the dealings of that God who had created them."

I thought, 'Ouch!' but that was just perfect for me. However, that night I still complained but poured out my heart to Him who knows all things. He answered my prayer very very soon. He answers prayers even though it might not be according our time but He does. Last night, He answered my prayer according to my time. I am very grateful for that.
_________________________________________________________________________

The second story is from few weeks ago. This is from my journal:

Thursday, September 22, 2011

"Last night, I realized that I had to fast and attend the temple so that I wouldn't feel so overwhelmed. I fasted for few things and one of them was feeling peace and comfort throughout the day... When I got into the Celestial room, I prayed fervently. It was interesting because when I was praying, I [felt] the warmth of sunlight but I was inside of the temple so there was no way that I could feel sunlight.

"Throughout the day, I didn't feel overwhelmed at all. I was really at peace. I just planned out in my mind what I was going to finish today... Things are going to work out no matter what. I have to just take one step at a time. With the Lord's help, nothing is impossible and I can do hard things."

Related Post
My Heavenly Father Loves Me

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

Four Posts in One Day? Yes Please!

I got a lot I have to do before I go on this ridiculously expensive group date, that I really don't want to go, with my roommates. Why would I want to spend 40 bucks on this date? (No offense, J but $40 is a little bit too much to spend on a date with a friend) $40 is how much I get for "selling" my body to the Plasma Center. There goes my money from today...

Anyways, going back to what I was supposed to do today... I have a lot to do but I am not doing anything at work since I keep telling myself that I need to have the rubric to write five-page paper for D&C class and Psych articles for a three-page rough draft of the Literature Review. I've been doing pretty well at planning on what I should do day to day so that I wouldn't feel overwhelmed. It's such a good strategy! Both of these papers are due Wednesday so if I finish them today, I won't have to worry about them and work on other things as days go by.

Let's go back to this date thing. It's probably going to rain tonight. It's probably going to be cold tonight. It's going to be really expensive. I am going on a date with a female friend with whom we probably have this mutual understanding that we are not going to be anything more than just friends. Verdict: not worth going. I have to go though because 1. my friend doesn't know it costs a fortune (for a college student) for this date, 2. it's a house-date meaning all the guys from my house are going (minus one: Jacob has to work), and 3. ...never mind. There were only two reasons. With 40 bucks, we could watch a scary movie and build our own haunted whatever.

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More

Understanding Dating: The Key

Once again, I would like to make it clear that I am not an expert at dating. I don't pretend to be either but give opinions on what I think. You, of course, do not have to agree and shouldn't find anything offensive since it's only one person's opinion.

The Key of Dating

I strongly feel that the major key of dating is open communication. It doesn't have to be the success of dating but also the "successful" failure of dating. Let me try to organize my ideas and present them to you in an orderly manner. I don't think I will be separating it into "guys" and "girls" this time or maybe I will.

I think that every guy should do this but it might depends on the context. After your date, walk her to the door and tell her how great the date was and how great she is. Then let her know that you would love to ask her out again sometime but also let her know that she doesn't have to feel pressured to go on another date with him. In my mind, I would say, "I had such a great time with you. You are really funny and I laughed so hard when (bring up an event that was funny) (OR) I really enjoyed (whatever you did for a date). You know, I would love to ask you out again in the near future, BUT (and yes, you have to say it with upper-case) if you are not interested going on dates with me, you can always reject me. I might cry a little inside (make it funny) but I will be all right." Now, the girl knows that you are interested in her but you are not asking her out again for the week after that AND she knows that there's no pressure for her to go on another date with you if you do ask her out. She doesn't have to feel bad because there's already a mutual agreement that it's nothing serious.

And I think girls should take an opportunity like this to express how they feel. I've been talking to my friends and they learned so much about girls they are/were pursuing by talking to them and letting them know how they felt then they opened up. Girls, you shouldn't be afraid to "break" guys' hearts. They won't die. You should have an open communication with them so that they don't think you are leading them on and that you are interested in them. Guys would hate to spend money on girls who are not interested in them (I would too) so please, let us know. You can say something like, "I really enjoyed our date. You are a really sweet guy but (bless his heart) I am [looking for this type... OR not looking for a boyfriend... OR not interested in dating you] (OR) maybe we could just be friends (I like that better)." Of course, you will feel bad for him but he needs to grow up and if he throws a fit about it, you wouldn't feel bad for him at all and you would be glad that you crushed his (insert a way offensive word for "jerk" then turn it into an adjective) heart. Also, don't go on pity dates with guys because it will only lead them on.

So what is the key of dating? Open Communication!

Sorry about the background. You can click to view it in another window.

Questions? Concerns? Doubts? If you have any of them, you write your own blog about 'em.

Related Posts
Understanding Dating: Problem #2
Understanding Dating: Problem #1
Opposites Attract

Posted by Q K 0 comments

Read More